Round Table Discussion – Spanking Beginnings & Fantasies Come True

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I am so excited to be participating in a new feature over on the Spanking Romance Review Blog! Several of us have started an ongoing Round Table Discussion pertaining to hot button issues of the spanking community! Every two weeks we will discuss a new topic that is near and dear to the spanking community’s heart. After you read this blog head on over to SRR’s blog to see our debut post and find the links to the other participant’s responses!

This week’s discussion is led by yours truly! I’ve always been fascinated by how others discovered their interest in spanking & how they have explored it. So on that note here is this week’s discussion questions:

  1.  When did you first know you were interested in spanking, and the surrounding ideas that come with it?
  2. When did you finally cross over from fantasies to bringing it into real life? (Or has that yet to happen?)

I’ve been a spanko I think my entire life. From Ken spanking Barbie or Barbie spanking Barbie it’s always been there. I remember looking up spanking in the dictionary over and over and in every new dictionary I could find. I tried to incorporate spanking with a few of my high school boyfriends, but I really don’t think they thought I was being serious. I did have one spanking experience with my long time high school boyfriend. We were just joking around and it turned into so much more. I literally went weak in the knees when he pulled his belt out of its loop’s and made me bend over for a spanking. I had never been so turned on in my life. Sadly that relationship was over, but it left a burning desire in my mind (and fantasies!)

I met my husband a couple years later. We had a whirlwind romance and were married within only two months (with three kids between us.) There was a lot of playful spanking, but with so many kids under five we were just never really able to fully develop this kink. Throughout the years after we had a fight I would fantasize about him taking me over his knee and spanking me soundly then placing me in the corner. I didn’t tell him during those years about the desire because I was terrified about giving up that kind of control. We were also both pretty staunchly feminist, so I kept those fantasies to myself.

At about the five year mark I started re-awakening sexually. The spanking play began again and it was great! One day as I perused the web for spanking stories and videos I stumbled across a CDD web page. Let me tell you it resonated from the top of my head to the tip of my toes. It was a huge light bulb moment! I remembered seeing Bethany’s community (before she created Blushing Books.) They had a forum where couples practiced DD but it wasn’t clearly defined as DD is today. This CDD site was a few pages and it described to a T exactly what I wanted and needed! I could combine my sexual need for spanking with my goals for in marriage and our household. I was a hopeless slob, hormones got the best of me more times than not, and I wanted his dominance so very much. I have found that DD appeals to me because I like having a purpose for the spanking. I like adding it into daily life. It makes getting things done so much more appealing. I am ever the practical Capricorn!

It turned out I was too chicken to follow through with bringing DD up to him then. I tried, but backed down at the first look of incredulous. I didn’t even take the time to explain. It wasn’t for another four YEARS that I made my second (and final) attempt. I enjoyed the play, but I wanted the real thing. And I got it! Hubby reacted well to my second attempt. I explained way better this time! I even got my first discipline spanking that week. It’s funny that I forget what it was for now. I just remember how weird it was. It felt so scripted and like we were playing pretend. He had me bend over the bed, lower my panties, and he spanked me a little bit with his hand and then used the ping pong paddle about 10 times. He kept asking if he was hurting me and if I was okay. I remember coming away feeling like I hadn’t been punished at all. He was so scared that he was going to bruise me or hurt me for real. It took him a little bit of time to get past that, but let me tell you he has gotten past it!!

Over the years DD has taken different forms. In the beginning I really wanted that DD fantasy that I had always read about in books. As time went on we realized that didn’t really work for us. It works better when we pick our goals or spankable offences and if I ask him for a spanking when I feel guilty or when I need it. He has become so much more confident and dominant. And boy is it HOT!! He has dominance in the bedroom honed to a science. YUM YUM YUM! We are very adventurous and in DD and out of DD have ventured to many other aspects aside from spanking. I’m not sure how to explain why spanking works so well when I am a spanko, but they do. This whole dynamic works well. There is a difference between punishment spankings and maintenance, stress relief, or play spankings. Sometimes it’s just the tone of the whole thing. Whatever it is it works for us.

Fantasy has become reality in many ways. I know that I have many more fantasies to come true in the future as well! That’s why I keep reading those smoking hot spanking romances! So spanking romance authors keep on writing and fueling those fantasies!!

How did you first discover you were interested in spanking? Have you experienced that moment where fantasy becomes reality? I would LOVE to hear your experiences as well!

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The Fabric of My Being

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Spanking is part of the fabric of my being. Dare I say I am not alone in this? I think that for many of us it’s just an innate part of who we are. Spanking thoughts are always lurking around in the back of our brains just waiting for their moment to come bursting out. These can come forth with any number of triggers; be it a tree branch that looks just perfect for a switch, to spying a wooden spoon or spatula while cooking in the kitchen. How about those moments when you see a couple arguing in the store? The wife practically begging to be taken over her spouse’s knee right then and there. Farm stores aren’t safe anymore (riding crops, leather leads,) hardware stores are out (wow, the plethora of spanking potential!) Once innocent items have now taken on new meaning. I will never look at a mini blind rod the same! Or an arrow from an archery set (thank you Renee Rose!) I can’t make it through a day without fantasizing about being spanked for one reason or another. Life just goes on around me. People are just living their lives, interacting with me, all the while having NO IDEA what is going on inside my brain. I think they would run for their lives if they knew. Thank goodness the majority of my friends and family aren’t mind readers. These thoughts have been a daily part of my life for 5 years & an active part of my life before that. Unfortunately life does not allow for spanking to happen all day long every day. Darn it! Lucky for us there are a plethora of amazing spanking books out there for us to satisfy our daily cravings. I do mean amazing. The spanking genre has boomed over the last few years much to my eternal glee. In fact the choices are becoming more varied and better quality all the time. If that wasn’t all, thanks to the internet we can also satisfy our need to talk about all of that yummy spanking fiction with others that have that same drive nestled into the fabric of their being as well. I decided to share my current top six favorite spanking novels to tide you over until your next satisfying interlude. Now ask me in a month and my favorites will have changed. They don’t call me a spanking romance addict for the heck of it. So here you are:

Editorial Board by Anastasia Vitsky

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Naia and the Professor by Natasha Knight

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Otherworldly Discipline; A Witches Lesson by Korey Mae Johnson

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Rules of War by Sue Lyndon

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The Devil of Whiskey Row by Renee Rose

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The Rod & Cane Series by Cara Bristol

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What are your current top favorites? I want to hear your thoughts as well! You can include blogs in this as well if you don’t do your reading in book form.